ESTJs are the “Supervisors” of the MBTI world, and they live up to their title well. These logical thinkers are incredible at getting things done, at delegating, and at seeing tasks through to completion. While they might seem kind of “bossy” from this description, they actually are very personable and can have a fun, light-hearted sense of humor that draws other people in. My mother-in-law is an ESTJ and I’ve always been impressed by her motivation, her warmth, and her determined nature. ESTJs are loyal, logical, responsible, and efficient. Naturally, anything that is the opposite of those qualities is bound to annoy them, but let’s focus on five things they find particularly frustrating:
#1 – Laziness
As with ENTJs, ESTJs are very efficient, hard-working people. They have very little respect for people who lounge around all day or don’t take their work seriously. They appreciate dedication and loyalty and are often extremely proficient at their own jobs. In fact, ESTJs have the second-highest household income of any of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types.
#2 – Procrastination
ESTJs have very little patience for procrastination or dilly-dallying. They want someone who can get the job done when they say they will. ESTJs are Te (Extraverted Thinking) dominant, which means when they get an idea or an inspiration they like to get it finished as soon as possible. This can sometimes put them at odds with their introverted thinking friends and partners, as they like to keep their options open and learn as much as possible before moving forward on something. There are advantages and disadvantages to both methods, but procrastination is likely something that will grate on an ESTJs nerves.
#3 – Showing Up Late
ESTJs like to have a plan and follow it through to completion. Don’t leave them waiting if you want to give a good impression! If you say you’re going to be somewhere at 3:30, try to be there by 3:15. Responsibility and following through on your word are both very important to ESTJs, and lateness to an ESTJ means that you don’t care enough about them to follow through on the time you committed to.
#4 – Messiness
ESTJs love an organized atmosphere. They like to keep their outer world clean and efficiently set up. Being in a messy environment for long or having to live with someone who belittles their desire for “neatness” can make them feel overwhelmed and stressed. While ESTJs can be very loving towards their less-organized friends, a continual atmosphere of disorganization will eventually cause them stress and deep annoyance.
#5 – Belittling Their Beliefs or Political Viewpoints
ESTJs have a strong respect for tradition and for their values – and they can often get deeply offended if someone belittles those values. They tend to have very strong political and/or religious affiliations, and can get very stressed and angry if you carelessly put down those organizations they are part of. What others may see as “harmless banter” about religion or politics can be deeply offensive to an ESTJ. So be careful with your words, and try to bring up disagreements in as respectful a way as possible.