10 Things That Terrify INFPs – According to 301 INFPs
Have you ever noticed that the things that scare some people hardly ruffle the feathers of other people? Personality type can play a part in what people fear and today we’re looking at the top fears of the INFP personality type!
10 Things That Terrify INFPs – According to 301 INFPs
Fear can be an isolating thing. Many of us who struggle with fears in our day-to-day lives feel alone and even misunderstood in our fears. I’ve often wondered if different fears are more common among specific personality types. I decided to try to talk to as many people as possible about their fears to determine if there were any correlations between type and fear. Do sensors fear different things more frequently than intuitives? What about feeling-oriented people versus thinking-oriented people?
What I Found Out:
There were definitely variations in the major fears of each personality type. I made it my goal to get responses from at least 300 people of each personality type before writing a blog post about their fears. What I discovered is that there were some universal irrational fears (spiders, heights, snakes) but that aside from those, the fears varied drastically according to type. NT types, for example, greatly feared mediocrity. SJ types mentioned insecurity and financial ruin. NF types tended to have more existential worries about meaninglessness and the afterlife.
There Are Always Variations
Not every INFP is the same. For every ten INFPs that mentioned a fear of rejection, there were probably one or two INFPs who said they didn’t fear anything at all. In this post, I’ll talk about what the majority of INFPs mentioned as a fear, but I don’t want anyone to assume that just because the majority mentioned these things that ever single INFP will feel exactly the same way. There are a lot more dimensions to people, their environment, upbringing, and beliefs that play into fears over personality type.
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The Top 10 Fears Mentioned by INFPs
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Not Living Up to Their Ideals
INFPs are often called the Idealists, and it’s not hard to see why. They have very high standards for themselves and rely on a strong inner set of values. Their internal moral compass is powerful, because of their dominant Introverted Feeling (Fi) use. They also believe in everything they do having meaning and purpose. Numerous INFPs mentioned the fear of getting to the end of their lives and realizing that they wasted their potential, or didn’t do anything significant to make the world a better place.
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Rejection
INFPs are very strong introverts, but the relationships they do have they take very seriously. They form strong emotional bonds with the ones they love, and are very generous and giving in the support they share with the people they care about. Friendship with an INFP runs deep, and they’d rather have a few very close friends over a broad group of acquaintances. The significance they place on their close friendships mean that they are especially affected by betrayal and rejection, and once burned, many INFPs are afraid to face that same rejection again.
“I have a terrible fear of rejection. I am extremely sensitive, and although I try to hide it, there doesn’t seem to be much I can do to change it. I find that when I look back on my past relationships many people have taken advantage of me. I care a lot, almost too much. It makes me feel uneasy about getting close to anyone again.”
– Michelle, an INFP
- Insanity
In my research, I’ve found that intuitives, in general, greatly feared insanity more than sensors. I’m not sure what the link is; perhaps it is because intuitives see meanings, and look for patterns and unknown principles and theories and are less focused on what can be grasped via the senses. Sensors focus on what can be seen, felt, tasted, and realized physically in the present moment and may be less inclined to worry about unforeseen possibilities that currently don’t pose a problem.
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Crowds
INFPs get their energy from being alone with their thoughts and ideas. For this reason, being in large crowds of people can be taxing for them and make them feel overwhelmed.
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Loneliness
Even though INFPs are introverted and recharge by being alone with their thoughts, they still greatly desire meaningful relationships. INFPs want relationships that are formed on authenticity, trust, and mutual passion and shared interests. This is why an INFP is often dissatisfied with broad, shallow relationships. They are the people who can feel lonely even among numerous acquaintances. It can be hard for them to find like-minded individuals to connect with since they are such a small percentage of the population (only 2%). Many INFPs mentioned a fear of dying alone, never finding a significant relationship, or never feeling understood by others.
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Phone Calls
While INFPs enjoy listening to others and forming connections, they often feel anxious when they receive unexpected phone calls. They often mentioned feeling nervous about having to make phone calls, answer the phone, the doorbell, or engage in social interaction with people they aren’t very close to.
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Zombies
I don’t know that this one needs much explanation. Zombies are just plain scary.
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Disease
Along with a fear of disease, many INFPs mentioned a fear of germs, paralysis, or physical helplessness.
“I think my Ne (Extraverted Intuition) goes a little psycho sometimes in respect to physical symptoms. I may not really believe that something is wrong with me, but I start thinking of all the possibilities of what could be wrong and I can freak myself out.”
– Derek, an INFP
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Becoming Evil
As I mentioned before, INFPs have a very strong internal moral compass. Living in accordance with their values is of the utmost importance to them. Finding out that they have been adhering to corrupt rules, laws, or ideals is something that can make them feel very anxious.
“I’m afraid of succumbing to my own self-destruction or developing a warped sense of idealism and not realizing it’s corrupt until it’s too late.”
– Andrea, an INFP
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The State of the World
Many INFPs mentioned fearing the current or potential state of the world. War, genocide, greed, environmental collapse; all these things were brought up numerous times. INFPs see the world as having a vast potential for goodness, beauty, and ingenuity. They are often angered and depressed when they see headlines in the news about more corruption, lies, destruction, and persecution.
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Absolutely spot on. Every one of those fears mentioned above is what I have experienced and at times I still experience a few under extreme duress. I will add that when feeling deeply emotionally conflicted and struggling the fathoms of stifling depression, is when the possibility of insanity becomes tangibly close in my mind and I can’t say that I’m not just imagining it either. For if I didn’t pull myself out of those miry thoughts which were turning into beliefs, who’s to say it wouldn’t cause dementia -a breakdown of mental functioning leading to a decay of the brain- (or a type of mental disorder in the very least). Little example of Ne paranoia for ya right there. lol
Good Articles, for 90% it is true and MBTI is so passionated ! Keep going with your articles there are awesome ! Good job
Wow this is really amazing…I’m not scared of zombies so much. But I do have to open the door in a public restroom with stalls before I flush..don’t know why. The sound terrifies me. But everything else was right on!!!
Get rid of zombies and sub in death of a loved one and it’s spot on.
Lol, thank you! I think in reality probably many more INFPs would fear death of a loved one over zombies, but zombies got more votes!
“the fear of getting to the end of their lives and realizing that they wasted their potential, or didn’t do anything significant to make the world a better place.” Regret. One of the scariest things. I also mirror this with other people and making sure they don’t have regrets. Goodness. This makes me so emotional and you have no idea how this affects me. I am afraid of my own ideals.
Yes, yes, yes! I loose so much sleep over world news issues that I have no control over. Also I hate phone calls, I really neglect my friends and family more than I should because of the dreaded phone call.
Very accurate except the phone calls. I actually enjoy phone calls because i tend to be more shy in person (though i can try overcoming my shyness by using my other functions).
I worry about most of the fears mentioned in this post, especially becoming evil! When I find myself not living up to my moral standards I start to convince myself that I must be a psychopath. Then I isolate myself and start thinking i’m going insane. The last stage of this painful process is some kind of personality rebirth. Also worry about dying alone.
This is so true! I’m in general very skeptical in putting labels on people or simplifying them through these kind of personality tests, but I have to admit.. I do recognize myself in every single point here. I don’t really care about the zombies though, but I can’t hardly imagine myself killing someone even if I would be in a dangerous situation. So that’s maybe the zombie thing?
I cant be afraid of insanity because Im already there.
Wow.. Totally relatable. Thought I was alone in facing this situation
I I am an infp and I relate to all of these fears.
I hope you don’t have to face them too often! Thank you for reading!
A lot of these are super relatable. It’s kind of ironic that reading this kind of lessens my fear of being insane. Haha Knowing that others feel the same fears makes me feel a lot less irrational.
I totally relate to all of these fears. It’s interesting to think back over time how these things impacted me in different stages of life. I’m just under 50 y.o. now and became a born again Christian along the way so that’s influenced my views greatly. I’m so much more grounded and secure in being just who I am than in younger years….my daughter is an INFP . I can tell what she is thinking and feeling to the point it drives my husband crazy at times.
How in the hell did you know that I hate Zombies??? Lol. All 10 fears on spot.
Haha, I thought everyone hated zombies, but INFPs were the only ones to mention it! 🙂
Pretty much spot on apart from zombies. (everyone knows they can be defeated with a few vinyl albums and a shovel) Hate crowds and talking to strangers on the phone. And worry about all the other above.
Good to know about the zombies! I do have a few vinyl records on hand! 🙂
Most of them are pretty accurate, definitely the phone one and rejection!
Thanks for reading!! Hope you don’t have to face many of these very often!
is it possible to fear these being an ENFP?
Absolutely! I would not be surprised if ENFPs and INFPs share many of the same fears because they have the exact same cognitive functions, just in a different order.
This is right on for me (as in I’m a INFP)! 🙂 I cherish my small numbers of friends; crowds do tire me out; zombies are nasty and ugly; I cherish my values; I do not like receiving unexpected calls/doorknocks; etc.
1,2,4,5,10 are so real! Crowds by far are the worst. Being and INFP and being a parent I have to say that I have a serious fear of not raising my tiny humans to grow up or be the good in this world. I need them to add to the beauty and not be full of hate.
I think intuitive are just made to feel crazy in a senor dominated culture and world. Its sorta like the gas lighting principal or when someone leaves you in a relationship and you go through that “was it me phase”. We struggle;and get beat up and rarely are validated and sensors will straight up call out on being “crazy” or coming up with “crazy” ideas. Then you take a type who’s core being takes connections and connects and connects them in that sorta of a cloud of feedback it becomes an inevitable fear…
definitely #6. i will not answer ANY call unless it has caller ID…and only then if i’m in the mood to face that person without knowing their agenda. also, i will not answer ANY door knock…unless it’s the mail carrier (peep hole mandatory). i have thought the reasoning behind this in detail…it’s because my feelings are so up front that i fear my honesty might bubble up through being civil and create a major incident. i have to work up the stamina to make a phone call…well in advance….”how to be phony and pleasant”…since we know that honey catches more flies than vinegar. as far as the other numbers…meh, not so much. i think this has everything to do with age and the number of years of therapy… ;o)
Unexpected phone calls, yes, absolutely give me anxiety. I will not answer the phone unless it is my mom or husband, or I am expecting a call from someone.
#6!!! Except now it’s not based on “fear.” Now I choose to ignore the phone etc. because I know it’s best for me (sometimes). I like being and INFP and I tend to embrace our “quirks.” My particular fear, however, is gas explosions/ fire. Very difficult to be around the barbecue when it’s being lit. Eek! My guess is that’s pretty common. I tackle fears by researching them so I’m educated about it. I find that understanding something really helps!
#5 influenced my character so much over the last years. After I ended a relationship because I haven’t found anything that connected us anymore, I feared I will never find someone who could actually understand how I feel and what’s going on in my mind. But I did. I finally found someone who I can tell everything I’m thinking about and every little thing actually freaks me out sometimes. That’s just the best feeling ever! And yeah, if only 2% of this world have the same mentality like we do, I can only tell you, it’s definitely worth it to travel the whole world to find this one person your soul craves for.
I am an INFP and my absolute biggest fear is being capable of hurting someone. I never want to hurt anyone. I have been having nightmares that I become dangerous and lose control and hurt my loved ones.
I have this big time. I once turned down a $25/hr position at a security company because they wanted me to carry a sidearm and I didn’t trust myself with it. I guess it goes without saying I have a problem with number 3 too…
As an INFP, my biggest fear is losing loved ones, and feeling that I didn’t do enough to show them, and tell them, just how much I loved them and how much they meant to me. No matter how much I have done for them, I still feel like I didn’t do enough, and guilt sets in for me.
Wow. This is actually accurate to me. I’m starting to believe that I am INFP after all. However… fear of zombies? Nah, I’m just waiting for the outbreak! But only if we’re talking about The Walking Dead zombies here… you know, the slow ones… easy to kill… the fast, aggressive ones aren’t so fun…
Also, fear of ghosts. I know they aren’t real because dead people are dead but… how do you explain ghosts anyway? Ghosts, man. Scary.
My God, the insanity, crowds, becoming evil, the world and the phone calls! Nobody understands why I have issues with phone calls, including myself at times. I feel better knowing I’m not the only one. And being evil, why I’m afraid of that happening¿ I feel backwards often. Crazy just runs in the family????
All of these were spot on. Some were more prominent for me in my youth, but I’ve had zombie nightmares on and off my entire life. I think they represent a variety of mob type violence, but also the possibility of diseases mutating and/or resurfacing due to global climate change and hitting much of the world population.
My mind, the possibility machine, used to terrorize me often and well. Insanity was something I pondered all through my twenties and early thirties. Crowds still send my pulse racing. I don’t answer the phone or open the door for unknown person, aliens, or entities. All possibilities…????
I still fear losing close loved ones. They are rare people that have climbed my walls and braved my alligator filled moats. But I do entertain the possibility I will see them again on a distant shore, hopefully, in better times than these.
Thanks for this article. It’s nice to know there are a few of us dealing with the same fears. I don’t think I’ve ever met another INFP in the flesh. It’s less lonesome to know you all are out there.
Hey! I’m an ENFP and I really like what you wrote! 🙂 The “see them again on some distant shore, in better times than these,” part wraps around my heart. I feel that same feeling, and actually I read about INFPs because I’m fairly certain the friend i miss so dearly was one. Reading about NFs is like a coping mechanism for me. These wonderful articles remind me and take me right back to those distant emotions. You INFPs are so loving, kind, empthetic, and absolutely hilarious. I especially love your unique sense of humor. 🙂
I will just say, and I’m not sure if it’s an NFP thing or just a human thing, that you’re not alone in holding onto that hope. I always wonder if that’s exactly how he feels. Thank you for your response. -Josh <3
I related to all of these and they hit me hard, but the most shocking thing to see on this list was zombies. I have always had a fear of zombies and have had terrible nightmares about them for years and years. They come and go but they never cease to deeply trouble me, especially since they always seem to have an elaborate storyline and one or two of my family members always seem to get hurt. I would love to see a deeper explanation of why we fear these fictional monsters.
Spot on
Majority of them hit the mark, but the one on zombies; to clarify, I’m not afraid of them, they just simply piss me off because they are something that just haven’t, can’t, and will not happen. It is scientifically, physically, even mentally impossible. They are the one fiction I refuse to entertain.
I hate zombies.. I found it bit relieving to kill them in Timezone shooting game XD
Why would you put a picture of zombies…. wtf… It’s not very nice at all!
Hello. I’m an INFP and this was very accurate in my opinion! Zombies really don’t scare me though; but I think that might have been an INFP humor thing. ???? Anyway, the list was great and I enjoyed the article greatly. Keep up the the good work. (I’d put a zombie emoji but there isn’t one ????)
Woe. As am INFP I must admit that the majority of these were spot on; give or take a few.
You forgot clowns! I hate clowns! Clowns scare the heck out of me!
Its True , I wanna die if i lost my sense of idealism.
I love this list thank you for writing it!
I agree with everything apart from zombies, I love Zombies lol 🙂
The only thing i think you may have missed is confrontation which is probably my number 1
Thank you! I can definitely see confrontation being up there!! 🙂
Wow. I have all those fears at some time, except the zombie one. The state of the world is a big one for me. I can’t even watch the news. It just depresses me.
I agree , everything but zombies
Insanity… Being insane would just prove that I am the freak I always thought I was! ????????
I agree with all but the zombies. I’m only worried about the state of the world with our current administration. I really hate phones. LOL.
Rings true, may not be scared of zombies but have an aversion to corporate zombies & brainless idiot!! ???????? Also dislike confrontation & use avoidance big time!
I can really relate to this…
Aside from the zombie spoof, this is spot-on. I thought I was the only one who got anxiety about phone calls.
My fear of doorbells and phone calls is legend in my family. If i could hide under furniture like a cat, I would!
And zombies? I am strangely drawn to stories and movies about them. Maybe it’s based on a deep fear of people who behave like monsters.
Love to all y’all awesome INFP’s!!
I think the fear of Insanity is stronger in intuitive types because it is much harder to explain the certainty of one’s conviction without the empiricism that sense types can easily retrieve. INFPs in particular know very early that their pov is not common. So after many years, they start to wonder if the lack of validation they crave originates from being fundamentally different- possibly from mentally illness.
Safety is big with me. When younger, I was chastised for being fearful of everything. But, I wasn’t really afraid! I questioned the safety of things. That fake Santa…shouldn’t I create distance from this guy? Ice skating on a pond? How thick is the ice?
I like how a majority of us (myself included) fear phone calls over zombies.
I fear being expected to make a snap decision. I need time to weigh all the options and come up with a decision that rings true for me. As a corollary, I dread having to deal with salespeople.
Very much relate to this! I hate being pressured to make a decision myself. Thank you for your input! 🙂
I agree with everything but I do have a love-hate relationship with zombies so I’m not sure if I can count that
I think Infp is a universal citizen with global concern
That is how I feel. I really dislike the idea of nationalities and borders. I think about the universe a lot. That may be why I have the crazy idea that we are all in this together.
I completely agree with the list, but i would like to add The fear of choicelessness. Also I hate confrontation. I cant believe that zombies made it on the list. I have seen some scary stuff but i have an irrational fear of zombies.
I have a fear of quite a few of these things. Some of them I am not surprised other INFPs are afraid of like crowds and making phone calls. It was very interesting to me that some of my biggest fears are shared. Dying alone or not having a real deep connected relationship with someone is a big one for me. #10 also really hit home. There were only 3 that are not high on my fears list, disease, zombies, and becoming evil are some I’ve never thought of.
My overarching fear is of being trapped – in a situation, physical location, emotional state, relationship, obligation. This manifests in multiple ways, from my difficulty with others telling me what to do to my mild claustrophobia and dislike of flying. I also have a harder time putting in the effort to make close friends because I dislike feeling obligated to others or having to give up my free time.
The fear of phones is such a big thing for me! I’ve never met anyone who understands this fear but I’ve always hated talking over the phone for various reasons. I always avoid it at all costs.
Wow! I didn’t know anyone else had a real fear of talking on the phone! Also, I have a fear of being unable to adequately care for myself when I become elderly and frail.
OMG It’s totally myself you describes in this article ! I even feel scared by zombies (maybe because they are dead people who are STILL LIVING O.O) and phone call ! I just can not call somebody naturally, I hate that !
Thank you very much, it was interesting 🙂
(and I am sorry if I made mystakes, English is not my first language)
I am generally quite a fearful person. I’m a nervous passenger whether it be a car, bus, plane. I also have claustraphobia, especially if there are no windows or they can’t be opened.
Another fear I have is not being good enough, losing my job etc.
What was stated here are mostly true. I feel most of them honestly, and very strongly.
9 out of ten! I’m not that frantic about germs, but that could be because I grew up partly in the country and you just learn to get your hands dirty and wash them off afterword.
Zombies seem to have a deeper meaning (if INFPS did list them on the list of fears, it seems it would be more than just the gore); Zombies are basically robbed of their sense of identity which is one of a typical INFPs main values.
Once (hypothetically) you’re turned into a zombie you can no longer enjoy any of the five senses, foster love mercy or creativity or any other of those special human traits. Even worse would be if apart of yourself remained watching in a hungry eyes and knowing that you’ve forgotten something important.
Yesh how afoul, let’s go watch LOR instead of World War Z shall we;)
Not sure if it’s an INFP thing, but I am super sensitive to sensory overload. I am easily startled by sound, smell, or touch. Not a fear per say but I definitely get startled. Is that an INFP thing? Or just me?
INFP’s fear being misunderstood and it happens even with people you’ve known for a long time, like brothers. You think they know you then realize they’ve had it wrong all along. There’s really no way to show who you are because their personality type (1 is an ENTJ) can’t see it or doesn’t get it. It’s like they’re blind by choice. To them I’m different and it’s not good. It’s heart breaking.
I’m a gemini INFP and very rare for males. The fears are correct but missing one more thing. Having real relationship with someone who truly loves you.
Yes, that makes sense. Thank you for adding that!
I actually find that one of my biggest fears is being trapped somewhere. Anyone else? I’m an INFP
the video nailed it with the observation that too many demands on an INFP’s time is very stressful. One thing at a time, please! and yes, I hate making those phone calls, especially if it’s to a zombie. just can’t….
I believe my greatest fear as an INFP, is the fear of being alone. I enjoy my alone time to reflect. However, I worry constantly, about finding someone who truly understands me. I think because of my list of values, finding like minded people, is almost an impossible task. I often wonder if the way I think and feel, pushes people away. When I was a child, this was an innate sense that “something was wrong with me”. As an adult, it’s more of feeling of appearing too intense or emotional. I have to say, reading this blog has allowed me to realize there are more individuals out there like myself, and the world feels a little less lonely.
I think they key to your fear would be acceptance. Once you accept yourself for having high values and standards perhaps it will be easier for you to be more confident because you would start to like yourself more and understand that you are unique. Once you understand the above it would be easier for you to accept that others are independent individuals that also are allowed to have their own set of values even though you don’t agree with them. Accepting people for who they are is the best gift you can have for another person because you know how much it means to be able to feel authentic around someone else.
I do contemplate life and hope that I don’t leave anything on the table when I go. I don’t fear crowds -I just avoid them and the phone. I don’t fear insanity, or disease and I have a healthy family history. Not Loneliness or rejection, but LOVE my alone time – relished “my freedom”. I know I’m not evil but wonder if my inner core is bad- which is weird as I don’t do anything bad ???….uggg. The state of the world. I wish I could if I might just have all the hate gone!
I would say fear of rejection is a the top. I’m an older middle aged INFP. I’m become more realistic, I think. I’m am no longer afraid of living up to some “ideal”. I avoid crowds. Loneliness- No. I like being alone. Phone calls, not really. I’ve had jobs where I had to answer many calls. You get used to it. Zombies – that’s just stupid. They don’t exist. I don’t watch Zombie movies. They are just so idiotic. Disease – no, I rarely ever think about that. Becoming evil- I used to think about that in my 20s, but that’s gone now. State of the World – I’ve rarely worried about that. My ISTJ husband does, though. I don’t watch the news much. I can only affect what is around me. I concentrate on that. On the people and animals that I come in contact with. I do give to charity organizations, however. But…don’t think about the state of the world much. Just my little piece of it.
My fear is getting stolen or stalked on. And definitely demons or scary creatures I made up.. I can’t sit outside at night without someone else there. I hate loneliness and the world’s current state. Germs and war scare me too.
My fear is the state of the world. My fear is that there truly is no hope left in the world.
Yeah… Its kind of true, zombies have been in the top list of my irrational fears years before I ever stumbled onto this article.
– gruesome open wounds, shifted bones etc, disturb me greatly. Moving objects under skin and sharp objects near eye also. I can’t look. Okay with blood. Phantom sensations are likely to happen. Mostly deep down I think its perceived lack or knowledge and ability, to help fix it, ease suffering, fear to cause even more harm by doing something wrong. Dramatic increase of anxiety, directionless empathy and a sense of helplessness. Most of it is unconscious and would translate into additional hesitation and doubt stalling the fight of flight reflex.
– they will never stop. Conflict avoidant as much as possible and protective of their values INFPs are ill prepared for this.
– they can’t be argued with. So, nope, inferior functions, very possible lack of applicable skills, co-op, or you kill your emotions and embrace your inner cold blooded psycho because he’s the only one who will not overthink this. But you know, Se sucks, so you’ll probably get infected soon enough this way anyway,
– at some point you would be faced with a decision to kill someone you care about, or if killing or harming (permanently) an innocent is something that you feel strongly about a part of your soul would have to die also.
– Enneagram Six paired with Ne would keep me ‘entertained’ through out the Apocalypse, providing branching clutter of narratives of each person dying/being infected and domino possibilities after that every time there is a suspicious rustle or things are going well and tranquil for a while.
– Somewhat lower on a totem pole is the anticipation of getting infected myself and the people around turning on me. Not suicidal, but sometimes inability to see options from a very dark place makes me apathetic and less attached to the continued survival without outside input.
Least likely apocalypse to survive. Give me misunderstood beings any day.
Zombies are just terrifying. I believe it is the thought of a zombie apocalypse happening that scares me. I think about what I would do in a zombie apocalypse and the answer so far is cry. I care deeply about people and the world. With the fact being zombies “were” people, people you know and love. Overall it’s just terrifying.
Zombie? Can’t Relate.
Oh wow. Yeah, aside from Zombies and Disease (although physical helplessness and paralysis do scare me a bit), I felt each and every one of these in my soul…
Thats very accurate I have very existential fears and thoughts about die alone, even I enjoy loneliness but also hate it and fear about potential bad illness (also the fear to go to a doctor to check what’s wrong) etc.. but the worst is I’m going that way cuz I know I’m doing it wrong and i do nothing to change myself.
Is it weird that these are all of my fears (currently)
Some of them are really accurate.One if my biggest fears is fear of rejection of friends who are close to my heart leaving especially cos its really hard to connect with people that when i do i sometimes have high expectations and hope its forever.
I am exactly that way, too. About rejection. And I always think I may could possibly die … when I’m sick … and everything hurts at about a “9” 😉
Yes yes yes 10 times yes
the only thing i disagree with are zombies, i literally love them
Not afraid of zombies but wendigos – close enough! Everything else – yes.
Aha I’ve read another article that totally enumerated all of my fears and weaknesses as an INFP…I love this…
Nailed it.
When I saw zombies I started to think of horror movies and I absolutely cannot stand them. 1 word – nightmares.. I refuse to watch them..
really curious if there’s a connection there.. maybe it’s just me… I can’t think of any reason I’d have like.. a situational bias.. 🤷🏼♂️
Am I alone on this one?
You are definitely not alone in this.
Yes to all of these. A million times yes. Except maybe zombies. I can’t stand horror movies cause of all the gore. It’s just scary.
Just yesterday a friend asked me what personality type I was. I hadn’t a clue what he was talking about, so he told me about the 16 personality types. Though skeptical, I took the test and it determined I was INFP. The more I read about the struggles that INFP males have, the more relief that I’m experiencing. I’ve spent many decades trying to conform myself to what our culture deemed all “real” men’s personality should be. Because of this, I had to deal with ever increasing anxiety and depression.
Everything in your list is spot on and represents who I truly am. However, the one about the zombies I found quite interesting because I have no issues with them. As long as they leave me alone, I’ll leave them alone! If zombies are a legitimate fear for other INFPs, I’m curious if the use of the “idea” of zombies is a way for INFPs to subconsciously communicate a fear of not knowing whether there is life after death? Of course this is reaching, but I hold strongly that there is life beyond the grave and maybe that’s the reason I don’t have a particular fear of the undead. Thank you for this article, by the way! It’s been very insightful and encouraging on “yet another journey” of self-discovery!
9/10 (except zombies)
As a male INFP, I can relate to all the fears that you listed, including zombies. When I was a teenager, I would tell myself that I shouldn’t be afraid of anything. I can relate to some INFPs who said that they are afraid of nothing. One of my first fears that I remember is fear of darkness. One night I sat on a chair at midnight in the open air to prove that darkness doesn’t scare me. Of course that did make me less afraid of darkness. It seems that ignoring fears doesn’t bring courage. However, that changed when I started accepting my fears. I realized that courage is not absent from fear. We can be courageous by acknowledging and welcoming our fears. For some reason, we must pass through our fears to see our courage. This article touched me deeply because knowing our fears wouldn’t get rid of them but it will help us be at ease with them and grow to love and desire them as part of our wholesome human being experience. My favorite quote is by Victor Hugo “It is nothing to die. It is fearful not to live.”