Here’s What You Do at a Party, Based on Your Myers-Briggs® Personality Type
Are you the life of the party or do you find any imaginable reason to bow out? Today we’re going to take a (tongue-in-cheek) look at how each type shows up in a party atmosphere. Keep in mind, this is more humorous than serious. We’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on the party life in the comments!
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Here’s What You Do at a Party, Based on Your Myers-Briggs® Personality Type
The ENFP
Gathers all the misfits and iconoclasts together to take down the popular, oppressive leaders in the group. Also gives lots of hugs and rescues anyone being bullied.
The ENTP
Gets in a debate with the ESTJ about politics, religion, and the organization of the snack table. Doesn’t care at all about how the snack table is actually organized. Later, joins in with the ENFP group because the brainstorming session is way too enticing.
The INFP
Remains snuggled up in the corner with whatever furry creature happens to be around, along with a worn-out copy of “Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban.” Feels like a prisoner at this party (but enjoys the furry friend they made).
The INTP
Tries to avoid making small talk by taking his Playstation to a private room where he can play “Elder Scrolls” in peace. Gets an unpleasant surprise when his best friend stumbles in later with his secret crush.
The ENFJ
Becomes part chef, part fortune-teller. Makes cookies for everyone while rallying them together to be their best selves. Listens to everyone’s life stories and is the last person to leave the party. A stranger gives them a tearful hug before saying goodbye.
The ENTJ
Hates small talk and meaningless banter so he connects an earpiece to his Bluetooth to discuss work projects, to-do lists, and the meaning of life with his closest friends. Confuses a lot of people in the process who think he’s talking to them.
The INFJ
Feels slightly awkward initially, but gradually looks for outliers to connect with. Winds up counseling them on their relationship issues, childhood traumas, and existential crises. Leaves feeling productive but totally drained.
The INTJ
Inwardly berates themselves for arriving early, and makes awkward small talk with the host for a while. Eventually finds a comfortable spot in a quieter corner of the room and listens to a podcast while analyzing the body-language of the various guests. By the end of the party, he’s figured out everyone’s motives and insecurities and has lost respect for the human race.
The ESFP
Sings karaoke, break dances, and somehow convinces a large group of people to blow their savings on a last-minute trip to Buenos Aires. Winks at the INTJ as they say goodbye.
The ESTP
Somehow manages to win beer pong and a game of Risk while inebriated. Rescues a cat stuck in a tree in an attempt to win the ISFJ over.
The ISFP
Paints a portrait of the INFP and the puppy while jamming to her favorite tunes on her headphones. Looks for anyone unique and quirky and takes stunning Instagram-worthy photos of them on her phone. Is admired by everyone but hardly notices.
The ISTP
Comes in second place to the ESTP at beer-pong, but then triumphs over everyone else at pool. Tries to avoid all the people who are doing a bad job of hiding their infatuation with him.
The ESFJ
Makes sure everyone has a drink, a snack, and a warm hug. Finds themselves mentoring a group of younger people about various relationship issues.
The ESTJ
Decides this party isn’t being run efficiently and proceeds to re-organize the kitchen, living area, and bar while cracking quirky, offbeat jokes.
The ISFJ
After helping out in the kitchen, finds themselves circulating through the crowd with outward signs of ease but inward feelings of exhaustion. Escapes outside to feed a stray cat that looks hungry.
The ISTJ
Was dragged to the party by somebody else and would really rather be home. Spends a great deal of time alphabetizing the host’s DVDs and books, then heads up to the roof to look at the stars and listen to a playlist of their favorite songs.
What Are Your Thoughts?
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Wow these are pretty accurate to me ???? I’m an ISFJ and my husband is an INTP!
Funneee.
You nailed my whole family with this! ????
None of these are what I do at parties. If I’ve agreed to go to someone’s party, I care a lot more about appearing “normal” or fitting in while I’m there. If I wanted to read, listen to podcasts, or play with pets, I would have stayed home. I have no problem telling someone I don’t want to go to their party if I don’t want to. So I would only go if I wanted to accomplish something through socialization…which would require appearing somewhat normal for a few hours.
To recharge during the party, I actually go hide in the bathroom. I need to get “offstage” every now and then. But the rest of the time I spend “acting,” thinking of how a normal person would peruse the food table: how long is too long? How long would a normal person be able to check their phone? How long would it take a normal person to walk from one room to another…how long before you should change groups/rooms to appear like you are socializing? If there’s an activity, like watching a game, I do that a lot (and even if it is a sport I don’t like, I am VERY interested). I just try to blend in and appear as normal as possible. This means that I definitely do NOT read their books (or a book I brought: I definitely don’t bring one) or listen to podcasts or play with their pets. I also don’t do dishes or help in any way with the event, unless it’s at my mother-in-law’s house or somewhere that I should appear to be helpful and caring. I don’t want to assume that they want my help, and it may even look like I’m criticizing how they are running their own party or their own house. As soon as I’ve made the appearance I had to, or talked with the person I needed to talk with, I do number 4.
Overall, I go to parties with a mission in mind, accomplish it, and then go home to peace and quiet. To me, this is how I win at peopling. Unless I REALLY like the person, I don’t just go to parties. But even then, being at the party to socialize with that specific person I like (without shadowing him or her like some weirdo) would be the mission.
This is hilariously accurate! My daughter is INFP and this is EXACTLY her!!!
I’m ENFJ and this is utterly true of me, combined with the INFJ ????????????
So very true of me Susan (INFJ). I seek out those who look as though they are uncomfortable. We then engage in conversations that probably have the look and feel of a therapy session with me as the therapist. If there is music and dancing involved I will encourage a wall-flower to get out there with me — doesn’t matter what she looks like or if I know her or not. If I don’t see anyone looking as though she wants to dance, I will get out there on my own. But, there comes a point when I have had enough and leave — no goodbyes, no “can I have your number,” just me alone with my thoughts while I drive home.
Summed me up in 1 go. That’s if I as actually get there. I never get there early, but I do leave early. INTJ
Ha! Love this! Was super spot on for me! (INFJ)
This is epic ???? funny that I just came from a party. However, I took the personality test yesterday and tested positive for INTP “Prodigy” but now I totally by all means relate to INTJ ???????? 0 doubts
Haha so true. But after concluding that humanity is lost I will want certainly stimulate my (Se) with the ISTP game then my dreams with the INTP. In last, I will come back to my affirmation and I will leave the party with the number of this ENTJ girl to improve the world together.
Speaking of parties, the funniest experience I ever had was the Humanities party. Was told the Psychology majors observe the behavior of others while the Communication majors have fun.
(Intj) Lol, I might arrive early but I dont know about standing on my own in the corner listening to podcasts judging people. I’m not an animal, I’d socialize if I’m at a party, clearly I wanted to be there.
Same! Lolol! Now, I might leave early, but I will socialize!
I’m INTP and I’ll never do anything like that. Not even close
I feel like there is a story behind the INTP.
This is absolutely hilarious! You got my entj friend spot on! I love reading your stuff!
For the first time you got INFP wrong
We’re usually saddled with listening to that person’s life story because we couldn’t stand seeing someone isolated and not enjoying themselves
I really eager to know myself and other people around me.
hahaha, I’m an INFJ and you totally described a Friday night for me! this is so funny! I always thought I was so weird doing it
I totally bust out laughing at the INTJ description- ouch!
ENTJ was so wrong ? ENTJ’s are very misunderstood lol
INTJ here. This assumes that he still HAD respect for the human race upon arrival. (-;
Another options for INTJs are to use alcohol as a “social lube” and to reduce brain potential, to try to put himself at a similar level of the other guests. Or the most common one: what does an INTJ does at a party? Refuse to attend.
As an ENFJ who also owns tarot cards, I felt attacked. Lol. Also, the last part about a tearful goodbye made me emotional. I have been there quite often.
Lol i love this. This was a ton of fun to read!
This was an interesting read. I could picture every scenario in my head
Spot on about INFJs when attending a friend’s party, but when wanderlust kicks in and I attend a venue on my own, I love to roam and explore every nooks and crannies.
I am looking for that mystery spot, that magical moment of stumbling on some totally different place that only a handful of people know is happening at the gig. If it’s a concert, the energy on stage eventually pulls me back to the front of the stage, and I emesh myself in the most talented player or players on stage, absorbing their energy. I guess I am mirroring what happens in my inner world landscape.
The added benefit is that I totally stake out the new place (like a lone wolf does inside his own territory) to make the place a new theme inside my lucid dreams, a new place added to my “dreamscripts” and I also make myself available to serendipity or not.
My interaction with others (strangers) is usually nonexistent but any passing ENTP or ENFP that gets curious about me (mystery) and engaged me will get very lucky that they found an elusive INFJ, and I shine off their energy becoming more open and charismatic, I find those types to be very magnetic, funny and clever with just a hint of insecurity that keeps me hooked.
Not entirely accurate (I’m an INFJ who would definitely do karaoke!) but incredibly fun to read. 🙂
Oh my god , I’m an ISTJ and I can totally imagine myself ending up alphabetizing someone else’s books and DVDs… XD LOL
Hahaha, this was hilarious! I enjoyed reading this. The ISFP painting the INFP, and the ESTP trying to impress the ISFJ was rather cute. 🙂
Can’t understand why some people in the comments section are being so defensive. Chill, people! Of course, there could be ten different ways in which you would behave in that situation. This article just mentions ONE exaggerated possible behaviour of EVERY type for the purpose of comedy. And it was quite well written and presented, I’ll say that!
For those who missed the disclaimer at the beginning of this article, I’ll repost it here:
“Keep in mind, this is more humorous than serious.”
I’m an INFJ and you nailed it! Hilarious, laughed out loud!
Wow, this was great. ENTJ description was spot on for my husband! And the ESTJ was totally me in my 20’s! I’d wash the dishes, “help” the host with everything, and even change the TP in the bathroom to face the right direction, lol!! I still like to help out at parties, but I’ve also learned to just be a part of the crowd.
Oh, and I’d (ESTJ) totally be debating with the ENTP!!
I’m an INTJ, and I have to agree…
So funny and relatable. Small talk, in my personal opinion, is always awkward and among the most inefficient ways to avoid saying anything of substance.
I (INTJ) personally would switch from small talk to really deep or intellectual conversation with the host as soon as I can find a way to do that, with maybe a few “Hey, did you know that, except when the sun or moon is hidden, sunlight always reaches the Earth because the moon reflects sunlight?” types of statements or questions thrown in there and a blunt explanation about my utter distain for small talk (with or without a brief overview of Introverted Intuition). Then I hope to goodness that the host is still listening while I begin speaking about how long yet short life is, sharing thoughts that I have mulled over and refined for the past several weeks, with examples from The Lord of the Rings, fascinated by the subject. Once I notice that the host is bored or going back to small talk, I excuse myself to daydream or see what I can accomplish from my to-do list while at the party. I might end up alphabetizing the food after ensuring that my seat is far from loudspeakers, near an exit, and close to food.
Disclaimer: I represent my own experiences and perspective. I do NOT attempt to represent all INTJs or even all female INTJs who are in my particular stage of life.
Wow as an ISTP I never thought that we are that ‘cool kid’ who ppl infatuated with, but nice perspective
INTJ:
1) Not attending the party;
2) If attending, drinking a lot since alcohol is a great “social lube” and helps INTJ to lower ourselves to other´s level and make them a just little more bearables.
I (INTJ) would definitely be away from the centre of attention. Maybe talk to the ENTJ or ENTP if I hear them say something interesting, or the INTP about whether Elder Scrolls Skyrim or The Witcher 3 is the greatest RPG. Alternatively, I hatch 3178 plans to steal the dog and cat away from the INFP and ISFJ all for myself, try to implement plan #1 and fail to because their bond is too pure and I cannot bring myself to harm it. Dog or cat notices and gets me to talk to them anyway.
Oh my. I was laughing throughout the whole thing.
Though I would probably be helping the host the whole time and then escape to some nature place outside, get my earphones out and listen to my favourite songs while pondering over the life of a tree and how much it goes through.