The Flirting Style of the ENFJ Personality Type
If your idea of being wooed means having your soul excavated by the finest soul-miner around then you’re going to want an ENFJ.
These types will dig through the trenches of your psyche to find gems of potential and power. They’ll make you feel like you could do or achieve anything. There’s a sense with the ENFJ that life is full of grand purpose and meaning.
In short, they’ll make you feel like you’re worth is infinite.
Martin Luther King Jr., Nelson Mandela, Oprah Winfrey, Bono, Bradley Cooper….all these influential people are rumored to be (or have been) ENFJs. Inspiring, visionary, creative – these types have a sense of charisma that draws people to them.
If you’re one of the lucky people who’s been drawn to an ENFJ and you’re trying to figure out if they like you, here are some tips to get you started.
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The Flirting Style of the ENFJ Personality Type
#1 – They’ll Prioritize Time Specifically with You
ENFJs tend to be social butterflies. They enjoy getting to know a wide variety of people and learning about different personalities, cultures, and ideas. But if they’re prioritizing you above the rest of the group and going out of their way to invite you to events, create special experiences, and get alone with you – then it’s worth noting that they might be interested in you.
#2 – They’ll Get More Physical
ENFJs are naturally friendly and gregarious much of the time, so how can you tell whether they just like you as a friend or as a potential romantic interest? Pay attention to their physical contact. Are they going out of their way to touch you, wink at you, nudge you, or hug you? Is their body language open and are they making a lot of direct eye contact? Are they leaning inwards towards you when you speak? Do they seem to mirror your body language? Pay attention to all these signs – these are strong clues that they might like you!
#3 – They’ll Play the “Question Game”
When ENFJs like you, they want to know EVERYTHING about you. Imagine yourself sitting across from Oprah every time you go to dinner. They’ll ask you about your favorite movies, books, memories, hopes, dreams. They’ll ask you about when you cried last and why, and what makes you laugh. And they’ll make the interaction so fun, engaging, and smooth that you won’t realize you’re giving a tell-all story about your entire life. You’ll walk away at the end of the evening understanding yourself in a whole new way, but also feeling strangely aware that all your life secrets have been exposed.
Scary, but exciting at the same time.
#4 – They’ll Be There For You Anytime
It’s 4 AM and you’re stranded in a rough neighborhood with a flat tire? An ENFJ will be there to rescue you (although they might have brought along an STP to actually fix the tire).
Someone’s bullying you at work? An ENFJ will stand up to defend you. When it comes to the people they love, there’s nothing an ENFJ won’t do to defend their honor. And they’ll brave even the most treacherous environments to protect someone they love.
And they’ll give you an inspirational speech and a warm hug to top it all off.
#5 – They’ll Gush and Blush
When ENFJs are around the person they like, words of admiration will spill out of their mouths faster than they can contain them. They’re likely to tease more, joke more, and become more excitable and expressive. At the same time, they often mention feeling shy and self-conscious about their excitement and talkativeness. Animated but rosy-cheeked, they’ll charm you with their warmth, humor, and vulnerability.
What Are Your Thoughts?
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Thank you so much for writing this! It is me to a T! Something else that is typical for me is to be loyal to a fault, especially if my romantic interest likes me back. 🙂
I’m so glad that you enjoyed this Louisa! Thanks for the feedback 🙂
It felt quite emotional reading this as it describes me perfectly in a way that although I love, LoVe, LOVE being and ENFJ, at times I feel like my flirting style is so unbalanced and yet, to be authentic, I feel there’s nothing I should do about it cz it will work for the right guy….
Thank you for this article!
I honestly so relate as an ENFJ- I like an ISTP and I’m pretty sure they can totally relate…. However am very intense and not always really good at you know- the flirting with an ISTP part not the best. I just focus all my attention on them and ask them so many questions and tend to accidentally let my really energetic ADHD self take over lol
This is so hilarious! I laughed all the way through. It is me exactly. Best description ever.
i have crush on an enfj but i think she likes everyone