7 Reasons Why You Need an INTJ Friend in Your Life
Each personality type has unique strengths and gifts to bring to a friendship. While many articles talk about the dating relationships between types, very few discuss more platonic relationships. What can you expect in a friendship with an INTJ? Let’s find out!
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7 Reasons Why You Need an INTJ Friend in Your Life
#1 – INTJs Are Deeply Loyal to Their True Friends
If you have a genuine INTJ friend (not just an acquaintance), they will stick with you till the bitter end. These types choose their friendships carefully and are anything but fair-weather companions. It takes a lot to scare them away once they’ve invested in a friendship with you.
#2 – INTJs Will Be Honest With You
INTJs have no patience for manipulation or sugarcoating (in fact, they are one and the same to an INTJ). If you want a friend who will be direct and tell you the truth, an INTJ is your man…or woman. If they respect you, they won’t lie to you. It’s as simple as that.
#3 – You Can Enjoy Quiet Time Together
Don’t feel like making small talk? Don’t feel like being the life of the party? That’s perfectly fine with an INTJ. They are one of the few types who you can sit with for an hour, maybe reading a book, or just relaxing and thinking, and you will still have had a wonderful time together. They love peace and quiet and won’t begrudge you for needing some.
#4 – No Conversation is Too Deep For an INTJ
INTJs hate surface-level conversation and shallow topics. If you want someone who can get really deep really fast, call your INTJ friend…or wait, don’t call them…text them. If you want to talk about the meaning of life, the purpose of religion, politics, or any “taboo” thing that’s not a proper dinner-table conversation, then an INTJ is a friend you can count on.
#5 – You’ll Help Each Other Reach Your Goals
INTJs are extremely goal-oriented. One of the things they look for (and provide) in a friendship is direction and motivation to reach goals. They usually have big visions and plans for the future and will enjoy sharing those plans with you. They’ll also enjoy strategizing with you and motivating you to reach your hopes and dreams.
#6 – They’ll Help You Solve Problems
INTJs have excellent problem-solving skills thanks to their insight into situations and their objective, logical nature. If you want a friend who will listen to your struggles and actually give you wise solutions, not just for the moment, but for the future as well, then an INTJ is invaluable. Just don’t be offended when they offer advice or solutions instead of platitudes and affirmation when you come to them with a problem.
#7 – INTJs Can Offer Insightful Perspectives
INTJs see everything from many different perspectives. When they look at a problem, they step outside of it and try to view it from every vantage point and angle possible. Only then will they form a conclusion. This makes them more open-minded and empathetic than most type descriptions would imply. This also means that in friendships they can help you to see a bigger picture than what is on the surface.
What Are Your Thoughts?
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This story came up in google feed as it is finally figuring out i am not an INFJ. I read it to stroke my ego, and a wonderful job you did. Here are three corrections:
>#6 INTJs have excellent problem-solving skills thanks to their insight into situations and their objective, logical nature.
INTJs are dominant intuitives, and only use logic when they have to, and even then, generally to prove their intuitions. Even though they externalize thinking, when speaking with a true friend, they use intuition, just as they would for themselves.
>but for the future as well, than an INTJ is invaluable
than->then
>INTJs see everything from many different perspectives. When they look at a problem, they step outside of it and try to view it from every vantage point and angle possible. Only then will they form a conclusion.
That is INTP, not INTJ.
From my personal experience as an INTJ you’re wrong about the first and third paragraph (especially about the third). I mean the first paragraph is true both for INTP and INTJ. The third is unique for INTJs (INTP instead build a framework which explains the problem).
You should consider re-checking your type.
I agree. I am an INTJ and everything in this article applies directly to me. This is very spot on and nothing needs to be corrected.
This is so good! My sister/bff is an INTJ, and all those things are definitely true in our relationship.
Yes, yes, YES! I feel like this article is 100% accurate. My closest friend is an INTJ. I agree with the enjoying quiet time together. I’m an INFP, and I go over to my friend’s house every morning (because of complicated circumstances). A lot of times in the mornings, we just sit there. We sometimes don’t hardly speak to in the mornings. Not because we don’t want to or anything, we’re just both comfortable with the silence. It still feels like we’re spending time together, though. And when we do talk, it’s often very deep conversations about things like politics, religion, etc. It’s great. This article described her as a friend perry well, I think