The 3 Best Matches for the INFJ Personality Type
What is the best match for the INFJ personality type? While a lot of theorists have a specific “best match” in mind, I decided to ask the INFJs themselves about their experiences. In my recent ‘Type Compatibility Survey’, I asked over 85,000 individuals about the types they were most compatible with, encouraging them to share their thoughts through pointed questions about their relationships and friendships.
Right now I’m at 768 INFJ respondents and I’m seeing some clear trends. From their own votes, here are the top 3 personality types that they found most compatible with themselves:
But before we get into the fun stuff, I have to add a disclaimer. Anyone can be happy with any Myers-Briggs® personality type. Relationships are built on commitment, understanding, and mutual growth. Many happy couples thrive in relationships that seemed challenging initially but blossomed beautifully over time. I mean, we all love the “slow-burn” romances or the “enemies to friends” trope for a reason.
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The 3 Best Matches for the INFJ Personality Type
1. ENFJs (The Mentors)
Why They’re Compatible
ENFJs are the expressive, enthusiastic, warm partners who will help break the INFJ out of their shell, in the nicest way possible. Yes, there’s the extrovert/introvert difference, but this can actually be a good thing.
The ENFJ has all the same cognitive functions as the INFJ, just in a slightly different order. They’re naturally interested in insights, ideals, implications, and understanding the human mind. They both are empathic, harmony-seeking, and warm-natured. Neither is happy with stagnancy; instead, they seek personal growth on a constant basis. And then there’s the intellectual curiosity that they’re both blessed with. Imagine late-night conversations discussing philosophy, spirituality, life goals, and the future of humanity. Can you think of anything better?
How They Complement Each Other
ENFJs can help INFJs break out of their shells, encouraging them to experience new things and meet new people. Their warmth and responsiveness provide comfort to the INFJ, who in turn, offers profound insights and emotional depth.
While the ENFJ can pull the INFJ out and help them experience more of the world, the INFJ can help the ENFJ to draw into themselves and have more self-awareness and richer insights. Together, they create a balanced partnership where each helps the other grow and thrive.
One INFJ from our survey mentioned:
“The warmth and responsiveness of the ENFJ are a comfort to me. They help me adjust to new experiences and express myself without fear. We naturally ‘get’ each other.” – one INFJ survey respondent, about their ENFJ significant other
2. INFPs (The Dreamers)
Why They’re Compatible
INFPs are the partners who will help INFJs stop worrying about what everyone else needs and slow down and figure out what they personally want. As Introverted Feeling types, INFPs are all about authenticity and staying true to themselves no matter the cost. INFJs use Extraverted Feeling, which makes them more like social chameleons, adjusting to others to create harmony. The downside? Sometimes INFJs give too much, absorbing others’ feelings and needs and overwhelming themselves in the process. An INFP can help them to see that they matter, that they don’t need to keep bending over backwards for everyone else. And the INFJ can help the INFP feel accepted and supported when sharing their inner world with them.
How They Complement Each Other
INFPs excel at coaxing INFJs out of their serious shells, inviting them to tap into their creative sides and explore passions they might otherwise let slide. They have a knack for reminding INFJs to check in with their own needs and desires—because let’s face it, we all know INFJs have a tendency to put others first. As Perceivers, INFPs can also help INFJs to be more flexible, explore other options, and embrace a little spontaneity and adventure!
In turn, INFJs can help INFPs to feel safe, supported, and understood when they express their deeper feelings. Anything is on the table to discuss or explore with these two types; their curiosity and intuition drives them to find nearly any deep or controversial topic worth exploring. Together they can learn, grow, and dream, creating possibilities and empathize with each other during the rough times as well as the good.
“Both of us need quiet time, and we’re deep thinkers. Plus, we share values and ideas that mean the world to us.” – one INFJ survey respondent, about their INFP significant other
3. INTJs (The Strategists)
Why They’re Compatible
INFJs and INTJs share a dominant function of Introverted Intuition (Ni), which means they both have a knack for deep analysis, forward-thinking, and feeding their intellectual curiosity. This shared grounding creates an instant connection as they navigate the complexities of life together, understanding that both emotions and logic have their place in decision-making. Both will respect each other’s need for autonomy and alone time, while also coming together to discuss the deep topics that most other personality types shy away from talking about.
How They Complement Each Other
INTJs bring a strategic mindset to the partnership, while INFJs provide empathy and a rich emotional awareness. While the INFJ helps the INTJ tap into and express their deeper emotions, the INTJ offers sound logical grounding that can help the INFJ have a strategic flow to their goals and ideas. Their mutual appreciation for intellectual challenges fuels stimulating discussions that range from philosophical musings to discussions about the future. This dynamic often creates a unique blend of passion and practicality, resulting in a relationship that thrives on mutual respect and understanding.
One INFJ shared:
“We’re both introverts. We love staying home and discussing deep issues or watching documentaries. I help him express emotions, and he offers logical advice and support. We both have the same dark sense of humor.” – one INFJ survey respondent, about their INTJ significant other.
What Do You Think?
While these three types—ENFJs, INFPs, and INTJs—stood out in our survey of 768 INFJs, it’s important to remember that love and compatibility are not confined to personality types. Each relationship is unique and thrives on mutual respect, understanding, and effort.
What relationship tips or insights do you have to share? Let us and other readers know in the comments!
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I’m an INFJ and I get along best with ENTPs.
INFJ-ENTP is a “Pedagogue relationship” . Really good for mutual growth. Just lack of emotional compatibility.
Good article. I think big parts of your 768 INFJ pool are actually INFPs. It’s a REALLY common mistype. This is why they chose ENFJ as one of their ideal partner, which is INFPs Golden Pair.