Which Personality Types Find It Hardest to Relate to People?

Why is it that some people seem to click with others as easily as Velcro, while others feel like they’re stuck trying to plug a USB in the wrong way—over and over again? I wanted to find out, so I asked my email list, clients, and followers to take a survey about their personality types and how they handled relationships and emotions. 6,291 people have responded so far (and if you want to add your voice to the survey you can do so here). One of the questions I asked was, “Do you find it easy to relate to other people?” Most of our respondents (78.24%) were women, 18.70% were men, 1.81% were non-binary, and 1.24% decided to keep their cards close to their chest.

The results were fascinating! Knowing this information isn’t just interesting; it’s useful. It can help you understand yourself, your friends, or even that one coworker who seems to speak a different language entirely. So grab a cup of coffee, settle in, and let’s get started!

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Which Myers-Briggs® Types Find It Hardest to Relate to People?

#1 INTJs

INTJs had the hardest time relating to others in our survey, with only 35.04% saying they often or easily relate to other people. But let’s not mistake that for lack of interest or care. If you’re an INTJ—or you know one—you’ve probably noticed they’re not the types to jump into a group chat and start sharing memes or ask how your day’s going for small talk’s sake. They’re the people quietly building a complex strategy in their mind, one that could possibly revolutionize the world.

Why Is Relating Hard for INTJs?

The cognitive functions give us a big clue here. INTJs lead with Introverted Intuition (Ni), which means their minds are constantly processing abstract ideas, long-term strategies, and future possibilities. They see the universe as a puzzle to solve or a system to optimize, and while that’s incredible for innovation, it doesn’t always leave a lot of room for chatting about, well, feelings.

Their auxiliary function, Extraverted Thinking (Te), reinforces this by prioritizing efficiency and effectiveness. INTJs often ask themselves, “What’s the purpose of this interaction? Is this moving a plan forward?” If it feels like a conversation is going nowhere (and, let’s face it, most small talk is aimless), they’d rather bow out gracefully than pretend to care about the weather.

Then there’s Introverted Feeling (Fi) in the tertiary slot, which is more about understanding one’s own emotions and values than reading other people’s emotions. While INTJs may know exactly how they feel and why it can be harder for them to gauge social dynamics and the emotional expectations and feelings of other people.

The World-Changing Visionaries

Here’s the thing: INTJs care, deeply. It’s just that their care often shows up in unconventional ways. They’re the people who might struggle to join a conversation about weekend plans but will spend hours perfecting a research paper that could change lives. One INTJ client I had felt disconnected from their community but found fulfillment in spearheading a sustainability initiative and getting everyone involved. They weren’t relating in the moment, but their actions showed their heart.

INTJs aren’t cold—they’re just selective. They’re not unfeeling—they’re focused. And when they do find their people, those bonds tend to run deep, built on shared values, intellectual curiosity, and a mutual desire to make the world a better place. So if you’re an INTJ reading this and feeling a little misunderstood, take heart. You might not be the life of the party, but you’re the architect of the future—and that’s a pretty incredible role to play.

Find out more about INTJs: 21 Hobbies That INTJs Love

#2 INTPs

Only 38.71% of INTPs said that they often or easily relate to others. But let’s not label them as detached or disinterested—INTPs care a lot. It’s just that their care often comes wrapped in layers of curiosity, intensive analysis, and the occasional existential spiral.

Why Is Relating Hard for INTPs?

At the heart of it, INTPs lead with Introverted Thinking (Ti), which means they’re wired to analyze, deconstruct, and understand the world logically. When someone’s gushing about their weekend drama, the INTP might be quietly asking themselves, “What’s the underlying cause of this tension? What components led to this and what’s the most logical way out?”

INTPs pair their Ti with Extraverted Intuition (Ne), which loves chasing down ideas and exploring endless possibilities. This makes them fantastic in brainstorming sessions but sometimes frustrating in emotional conversations. If someone says, “I feel sad,” the INTP might respond, “Have you considered that sadness is just an evolutionary mechanism for social bonding?” Great insight, wrong moment.

On top of that, their Introverted Sensing (Si) sits in the tertiary position, which means INTPs have a certain respect for traditions and routines, but it isn’t their strongest trait. They aren’t naturally tuned into social norms or the “this is just how we do things” aspect of human connection. Combine all this, and you get someone who probably really values friendships but sometimes misses the memo on how to build them.

The Quirky, Brilliant Outsider

One INTP client once told me they felt like an alien at social gatherings. They’d show up, try to engage, and then feel utterly out of sync when the conversation turned to, say, reality TV. But when they finally found a friend who could geek out with them about personality theory or Immanuel Kant’s philosophy? They were inseparable. INTPs crave intellectual connection—they’re not here for surface-level chit-chat, but give them a “weird” topic, and they’ll talk your ear off for hours.

What INTPs may lack in relatability, they more than make up for in their desire to understand and support people in their own unique way. They might not read the room perfectly, but they’ll happily help you brainstorm solutions to your biggest life challenges. And if you need someone to build a spreadsheet to categorize every major decision you’ve ever made? INTPs are your people.

Discover more about INTPs: The Dark Side of the INTP Personality Type

#3 ISTJs

At 40%, ISTJs weren’t far ahead of INTPs in terms of ease of relating to others. And honestly, it makes sense. ISTJs aren’t here to win popularity contests or charm the room with witty banter. They’re practical, grounded, and often laser-focused on tasks and sustainability —more so than social finesse.

Why Is Relating Hard for ISTJs?

ISTJs lead with Introverted Sensing (Si), which means they’re naturally attuned to details, routines, and the lessons of the past. While that’s great for reliability and dependability, it doesn’t exactly scream “life of the party.” ISTJs like to stick with what they know works, and if that means avoiding overly emotional or unpredictable social situations, they’re fine with that.

Their auxiliary function, Extraverted Thinking (Te), adds a layer of practicality to their interactions. They often think, “What’s the point of this conversation? Is there a task to accomplish here?” If the answer is no, they may quietly retreat to a corner where they can observe instead of engage.

The tertiary function, Introverted Feeling (Fi), means ISTJs have deep values and emotions, but they often keep them hidden. They might feel a strong sense of care and loyalty for their loved ones, but expressing those feelings in real-time? That’s tricky. ISTJs are more likely to show their affection through actions, like fixing your sink or remembering your favorite coffee order, than through words.

The Quiet Guardians

I once had an ISTJ client who said, “I don’t see the point in chit chat. I’d rather get to know someone by working on a project together. That will help me to know what they’re really all about.” And that’s ISTJs in a nutshell. They’re not out there looking for a lot of small talk or casual connections—they’re more likely to connect with you while putting action towards a meaningful goal.

But don’t mistake their quiet demeanor for lack of heart. ISTJs are some of the most reliable and thoughtful people you’ll meet. They might not gush about their feelings, but they’ll show up at 3 a.m. if your car breaks down or carefully organize the meal plan at a family gathering because they know how much it means to you.

Find out more about ISTJs: The ISTJ Shadow Functions

#4 ESTJs

At 46.67%, ESTJs are just shy of the halfway mark when it comes to finding it easy to relate to others. This might surprise some, considering their natural leadership skills and ability to take charge in group settings. But here’s the thing: ESTJs aren’t here to have a heart-to-heart about emotions—they’re here to get things done.

Why Can Relating Be Hard for ESTJs?

ESTJs lead with Extraverted Thinking (Te), the cognitive function of efficiency, organization, and logical decision-making. For ESTJs, life is a series of checkboxes to tick off. Small talk? Not on the list. Emotional hand-holding? Only if it helps move the project forward. While this makes them fantastic at managing tasks and motivating teams, it can sometimes make personal connections feel like a second priority.

Their auxiliary Introverted Sensing (Si) helps them stay grounded in past experiences and proven methods. This gives them a strong sense of tradition and practicality but can make them resistant to abstract, “touchy-feely” conversations. They’re much more comfortable talking about a family recipe than dissecting your existential crisis.

Tertiary Extraverted Intuition (Ne) does give them a spark of creativity and open-mindedness, but it doesn’t always shine in social interactions unless the conversation is particularly stimulating or goal-oriented.

The Natural Organizers

One ESTJ client I worked with said, “It’s not that I don’t care about people; I just don’t always know how to show it.” They told me they’d planned a perfect family vacation down to the minute, thinking it would show love and appreciation, only to realize their family just wanted to relax and hang out without a plan. This is the ESTJ conundrum: they want to help, but their focus on results can sometimes overshadow the softer side of connection.

But make no mistake—ESTJs care deeply about the people in their lives. They’ll show up when it matters, make sure everyone is taken care of, and keep things running smoothly. They may not be the ones to sit down and ask, “How are you, really?” but they’ll be there when you need practical advice or a steady hand to guide the way.

#5 – ISTPs

At 52.78%, ISTPs are a little over the halfway mark for finding it easy to relate to others. They aren’t ones to force connections or pretend to be someone they’re not. They’re the people who show up, do their thing, and leave you wondering if they secretly have a superhero alter ego (because they totally might).

Why Is Relating Hard for ISTPs?

ISTPs lead with Introverted Thinking (Ti), which means they’re all about understanding and logic. They like to figure out how things work—machines, systems, relationships. But when it comes to emotions? Let’s just say they’re more likely to take apart an engine than analyze someone’s feelings.

Their auxiliary Extraverted Sensing (Se) makes them incredibly in tune with the physical world. They’re action-oriented, living in the moment and ready to dive into whatever catches their interest. This makes them adventurous and fun, but it can also mean they’re not super focused on the emotional undercurrents of a conversation.

Tertiary Introverted Intuition (Ni) gives them a knack for seeing patterns and deeper meanings, but it’s more of a subtle undertone than a driving force. Emotional connection isn’t impossible for ISTPs—it just isn’t always their first instinct.

The Lone Wolves

One ISTP client once told me, “I don’t need a lot of people in my life. Just a few good ones.” That’s the ISTP way. They’re independent to the core and don’t tend to seek out a broad range of relationships, focusing instead on a select few.

#6 ENTJs

With 55% saying they find it easy to relate to others, ENTJs are a bit of a mixed bag when it comes to social connection. They’re natural leaders and visionaries, but their direct and goal-oriented nature can sometimes make them come across as a little intense.

Why Can Relating Be Hard for ENTJs?

ENTJs lead with Extraverted Thinking (Te), which means they’re wired to focus on efficiency, objectivity, and tasks. When they’re in a conversation, they’re spotting logical inconsistencies, troubleshooting, and looking to provide solutions, not to empathically absorb what the other person is feeling.

Their auxiliary Introverted Intuition (Ni) helps them see long-term strategies and big-picture ideas, but it can also make them seem a little “in their own world” at times. ENTJs are always thinking five steps ahead, which can make it hard for them to slow down and focus on the present moment and just “be” with another person.

Their tertiary Extraverted Sensing (Se) gives them a flair for action and charisma, which makes them more engaging than they realize. But since their dominant functions are so task-focused, they can unintentionally steamroll over emotional subtleties in their quest for progress.

The Visionary Leaders

One ENTJ client I worked with joked, “I’m great at directing people, but terrible at remembering their birthdays.” I had to laugh because I know several other ENTJs who would agree. They want to make a difference and have good friendships, but they often prioritize leading, organizing, and strategizing over emotional bonding.

That said, ENTJs can form incredibly deep and meaningful connections when they find people who share their vision or appreciate their ambition. They seek out relationships where intellectual discovery is front and center. And while they may not always express their emotions in the warmest way, their vision and commitment are undeniable..

#7 – ESTPs

At 70%, ESTPs are cruising near the top when it comes to finding it easy to relate to others. And honestly, are we surprised? ESTPs are often the charismatic daredevils of the Myers-Briggs® world. They can charm their way into (or out of) just about anything, whether it’s a conversation or a last-minute trip to Vegas. But don’t let the confidence fool you—there’s more to ESTPs than meets the eye.

Why Is Relating Easier for ESTPs?

ESTPs lead with Extraverted Sensing (Se), which means they’re fully plugged into the present moment. They notice what’s happening around them—every nuance, every opportunity—and they use that awareness to connect with others effortlessly. Whether it’s cracking a joke at just the right time or adapting to the vibe of a room, ESTPs are social chameleons.

Their auxiliary Introverted Thinking (Ti) gives them a knack for quick analysis, making them sharp, witty, and excellent problem-solvers in social situations. They can make you laugh while they fix your iPhone and everything in between.

And last but not least: Extraverted Feeling (Fe). They can easily read the room and sense other’s emotions. They’re great at engaging, making people laugh, or diffusing tense situations (if they want to). That said, digging into deep emotional conversations? That’s more of a stretch. More heavy heart-to-heart talks can make them feel drained in a hurry.

The Daredevil Connectors

One ESTP respondent commented, “I don’t want to talk about feelings—I want to DO something!” They meant it. ESTPs love action, whether it’s a spontaneous road trip, a game of basketball, or grabbing the controllers for a Call of Duty marathon. They relate best through shared experiences rather than sitting down to talk things out.

#8 – ISFPs

At 73.81%, ISFPs usually have no trouble relating to others. They know how to quiet their minds and just “be” with another person, giving them space to express themselves fully. They might not always put themselves out there, but when they do, their sincerity makes a big impact.

Why Is Relating Easier for ISFPs?

ISFPs lead with Introverted Feeling (Fi), which means they have a deep, internal sense of what matters to them and what gives life meaning. They might not wear their hearts on their sleeves, but when they connect with someone, it’s genuine. When someone else is going through a problem, they know how to quiet their mind and really actively listen. Then they put themselves in the other person’s shoes, imagining how they would respond in a similar situation or reflecting on a similar situation they’ve experienced in the past. This helps them to relate in a profoundly personal way.

Their auxiliary Extraverted Sensing (Se) helps them stay present and engaged in the moment. ISFPs are the ones who’ll notice the little things—like the way your voice changes when you’re upset or the sunset you didn’t think anyone else saw. This attentiveness makes them skilled at relating, even if they’re not the loudest person in the room.

With Introverted Intuition (Ni) in the tertiary spot, ISFPs also have a subtle knack for reading between the lines. They may not always articulate it, but they get people in a way that feels almost instinctive.

The Gentle Connectors

An ISFP respondent stated, “I don’t need a big group of friends—I just want to feel like I matter to the ones I have.” They’re not about impressing the crowd or chasing popularity; they’re about forming connections that feel real and meaningful.

ISFPs relate best in calm, intimate settings—over coffee, a shared hobby, or even a quiet walk in the park. They’re the kind of friends who’ll remember your favorite song, make you a playlist, and leave you wondering how they always know exactly what you need.

Find out more about ISFPs: How ISFPs Say “I Love You”

#9 – INFPs

At 80.60%, INFPs are soaring high on the relatability scale—and it’s no wonder. These empathetic, idealistic dreamers are masters of emotional connection. They’re the ones who can sit with you through your darkest days, hand you a tissue, and give you permission to express yourself in a raw, messy, real way.

Why Is Relating Easier for INFPs?

INFPs lead with Introverted Feeling (Fi), which makes them deeply in tune with their own emotions and values. But here’s the magical part: they also have an uncanny ability to hold space for others’ feelings, even when they’re vastly different from their own. They’re the people who’ll nod thoughtfully and say, “I don’t totally get what you’re going through, but I’m here for you.” And they mean it.

Their auxiliary Extraverted Intuition (Ne) adds a dash of creative thinking to their relatability. They’re fantastic at coming up with analogies, exploring ideas, and finding unique ways to connect with people. If you say, “I feel like a puzzle missing a piece,” the INFP will probably reply, “What if you’re not missing a piece—what if you’re a new kind of puzzle?”

Their Introverted Sensing (Si) in the tertiary spot means they also appreciate the little, nostalgic details that make people feel seen. They’ll remember your favorite childhood story or the weird snack you loved in middle school, and they’ll bring it up just when you need a smile.

The Empathetic Listeners

I once had an INFP client who said, “I like being there for people, but I do it through giving them freedom to express themselves more than telling them what to do or how to fix things.” That’s INFP energy to a tee. They’re not about directing your life, but more about creating stillness and space for you to find yourself. They’re the friends who’ll stay up all night talking about life, love, and the universe, and leave you feeling like you’ve been seen in a way you never thought possible.

Discover more about INFPs: The Dark Side of the INFP Personality Type

#10 INFJs

At 82.09%, INFJs are right up there with the most relatable types, and if you’ve ever met one, you know why. These intuitive, empathetic souls have a way of making you feel like you’re the only person in the room—like they get you on a level you didn’t even know existed. It’s borderline magical.

Why Is Relating Easier for INFJs?

INFJs lead with Introverted Intuition (Ni), which means they’re always looking for deeper meanings and connections. They see patterns in people’s behaviors, motivations, and emotions that others might miss. This gives them an uncanny ability to “read” people, making their interactions feel deep and meaningful.

Their auxiliary Extraverted Feeling (Fe) is the ultimate social glue. It helps them tune into the emotions of others and respond in a way that makes people feel seen and valued. INFJs aren’t just listening—they’re absorbing your feelings like emotional sponges.

With Introverted Thinking (Ti) in the tertiary spot, INFJs also enjoy diving into intellectual conversations. They’ll happily discuss philosophy, psychology, or the deeper mysteries of life, all while making you feel like a co-creator in the discussion.

The Thoughtful Connectors

One INFJ client once told me, “I can’t just relate to someone halfway—I need to go deep or it doesn’t feel real.” They’re not here for surface-level chit-chat. They want to understand your soul, your struggles, and your dreams.

But beware: while INFJs are fantastic at relating to others, they can sometimes feel misunderstood themselves. They give so much in relationships that they occasionally wonder, “Does anyone truly get me?” If you’ve got an INFJ in your life, remind them they’re just as worthy of love and connection as they make everyone else feel.

Find out more about INFJs: 21 Hobbies that INFJs Love

#11 ESFPs

At 83.33%, ESFPs find it usually easy to relate to people. These bubbly, warm, and adventurous personalities are masters of turning strangers into friends and awkward silences into unforgettable moments.

Why Is Relating Easier for ESFPs?

ESFPs lead with Extraverted Sensing (Se), which means they’re fully tuned into the here and now. They’re the people who notice when someone’s feeling left out or when the energy in the room needs a boost—and they’re quick to step in and fix it.

Their auxiliary Introverted Feeling (Fi) gives them a deep sense of personal values and authenticity. ESFPs are all about keeping it real and being authentic, often in a loud and proud way. This sincerity and openness makes others feel safe to share their own real and sometimes messy emotions and thoughts. This combination of Se and Fi creates a natural warmth that makes them irresistibly relatable.

Their Extraverted Thinking (Te) in the tertiary position means they can get things done when needed, but it’s usually wrapped in charm and humor. They’re not just relatable—they’re efficient about it.

The Party Starters

One ESFP respondent said, “I don’t do boring.” And they meant it. ESFPs are all about bringing people together and creating memories, whether it’s throwing a spontaneous barbecue or organizing an impromptu dance-off.

But don’t mistake their fun-loving nature for superficiality. ESFPs have a knack for connecting on a deeper level, too. They’ll be the first to notice when you’re feeling down and the first to cheer you up—likely with an adventure or a well-timed joke.

#12 ISFJs

84.91% of ISFJs said it’s easy to relate to other people, and I’m not surprised. ISFJs are the kind of people who remember your birthday, your favorite coffee order, and that random story you told them six months ago. They work hard to relate to others, sense their emotions, and create a feeling of warmth and connection.

Why Is Relating Easier for ISFJs?

ISFJs lead with Introverted Sensing (Si), which means they’re detail-oriented and attuned to the needs of others. They remember the little things that make people feel seen and valued, like how you like your tea or that you prefer hugs over handshakes. And then they combine that with…

Extraverted Feeling (Fe). This function gives them an ability to “read the room” and sense the emotions of others. ISFJs are the ones who’ll ask, “How are you, really?”—and then actually listen to your answer. They don’t just relate to others; they make others feel safe.

Their Introverted Thinking (Ti) in the tertiary position means they enjoy analyzing situations and solving problems for their friends. They combine their Introverted Thinking with Extraverted Feeling to figure out how people tick, what makes them the way they are, and analyze relationships.

The Quiet Caretakers

One ISFJ client told me, “I just want everyone to be okay.” And that sums up ISFJs perfectly. They’re the friends who’ll show up with soup when you’re sick, remember your dog’s birthday, and make you feel like the most important person in the world.

#13 ENTPs

At a whopping 90%, ENTPs find it pretty easy to relate to others and form connections. How? They’re equal parts charming, quick-witted, and endlessly curious. ENTPs can turn any conversation into an engaging debate or an opportunity to explore new ideas, which makes them fun, fascinating, and thought-provoking.

Why Is Relating Easier for ENTPs?

ENTPs lead with Extraverted Intuition (Ne), which means they’re always looking for new ideas and possibilities. This makes them incredibly open-minded and adaptable in conversations. Whether you want to talk about philosophy, pop culture, or the weird dream you had last night, the ENTP will jump right in with a unique take you’ve probably never heard before.

Their auxiliary Introverted Thinking (Ti) gives them a sharp, analytical mind that they use to keep conversations interesting. They’re not just talking for the sake of it—they’re dissecting, questioning, and challenging ideas in a way that keeps people engaged.

Their Extraverted Feeling (Fe) in the tertiary spot means they’re surprisingly good at reading the room and adjusting their approach to make others feel connected. While they might occasionally push buttons for fun, they rarely cross the line into actual meanness.

The Playful Conversationalists

ENTPs are genuinely curious about everyone they meet, which makes them incredibly engaging. If a conversation gets dull, they’ll find a unique angle on an otherwise boring topic to make it more exciting. They’re the ones who’ll argue with you for hours about whether pineapple belongs on pizza and then laugh with you about how ridiculous the whole conversation was.

#14 ENFPs

At 97.87%, ENFPs land just shy of the very top, but let’s face it—they’re still incredibly skilled in the world of relating and connection. These quirky, enthusiastic dreamers have a way of making people feel like they’ve known them forever, even if they just met five minutes ago.

Why Is Relating So Easy for ENFPs?

ENFPs lead with Extraverted Intuition (Ne), which means they’re constantly exploring ideas, possibilities, and, yes, people. They’re curious about everything and everyone, and that genuine interest is contagious. ENFPs don’t just want to talk to you; they want to know your life story, your dreams, and maybe even your thoughts on alien life.

Their auxiliary Introverted Feeling (Fi) gives them a desire to be real and sincere, and to encourage that in others as well. ENFPs are deeply attuned to their own values and emotions, and they don’t shy away from the deeper and messier subjects others tend to shy away from. They want to create space to help others feel safe in self-expression. You could confess the weirdest thing about yourself to an ENFP, and they’d be impressed rather than put-off.

With Extraverted Thinking (Te) in the tertiary slot, ENFPs can also get things done when they’re motivated. While their focus might wander at times (hello, shiny object syndrome), their enthusiasm for people and ideas is unstoppable.

The Energizing Enthusiasts

ENFPs are the ones who’ll spontaneously invite you to a road trip, talk spirituality with you over coffee, and get into your shoes to try to understand your story in life.

But their relatability isn’t just about fun and games. ENFPs genuinely care about making connections that matter. They want to inspire you, cheer you on, and remind you that life is full of possibilities.

Discover more about ENFPs: ENFP Grip Stress: What It Is and How to Cope

#15 ESFJs

At 98.8%, ESFJs find it simple to connect and relate to others. These warm, caring individuals practically ooze friendliness and enjoy swapping personal stories and shared experiences. They’re the ones who bring cookies to the meeting, remember everyone’s birthday, and find common ground in the midst of an argument.

Why Is Relating So Easy for ESFJs?

ESFJs lead with Extraverted Feeling (Fe), making them natural relationship builders. They thrive on harmony and connection, and they have a sixth sense for what people need emotionally. If you’re feeling down, they’re probably going to notice—and offer comfort, likely in the form of baked goods or a heartfelt pep talk.

Their auxiliary Introverted Sensing (Si) adds a layer of practicality and attentiveness. ESFJs are the friends who’ll not only remember that you’re lactose intolerant but also bring a dairy-free dessert to your dinner party. They don’t just care about people; they show they care in tangible, thoughtful ways.

With Extraverted Intuition (Ne) in the tertiary spot, ESFJs also bring a sprinkle of spontaneity and creativity to their interactions. They’re not afraid to mix things up or crack an unexpected joke at just the right time to break you out of a bad day.

The Warm Hosts

One ESFJ client told me, “I try to make everyone feel like they belong.” At their best, they pay attention to the stories and histories of people, letting them know that their experience matters. They create meaningful routines and traditions that help people feel connected, seen, and valued.

#16 ENFJs

With 100% of ENFJs saying they find it easy to relate to others, we officially crown them the kings and queens of connection. These are the people who can walk into a room full of strangers and leave with a dozen new best friends, a book club invitation, and probably an inside joke or two.

Why Is Relating So Easy for ENFJs?

ENFJs lead with Extraverted Feeling (Fe), the ultimate connection superpower. They’re hyper-attuned to the emotions and needs of others, often sensing what someone feels before that person even realizes it themselves.

Their auxiliary Introverted Intuition (Ni) adds a layer of insight that makes their connections feel deeper and more meaningful. They spot patterns, perspectives, and insights seemingly out of the blue. ENFJs don’t just nod along in conversations; they ask the kinds of questions that make you go, “Wow, I’ve never thought about it that way before.”

With Extraverted Sensing (Se) in the tertiary position, they also have a knack for being present and engaging in the moment. They can actively be present with you, while noticing changes in your body language and tone of voice that clue them in on your deeper feelings.

The Heartfelt Connectors

One ENFJ respondent said to me, “I just want to leave people better than I found them.” ENFJs are the types to help you deconstruct the meaning in a dream or send you an encouraging text just when you need it.

If there’s one “downside” to their relatability, it’s that ENFJs can stretch themselves thin trying to be everything to everyone. If you’re an ENFJ reading this, make sure you’re also taking time to assess your own needs and figure out your own dreams! It’s okay to prioritize yourself. In fact, it’s something you should make a habit.

Discover more about ENFJs: ENFJ Characters We Can’t Help But Love

What Do You Think?

Do you feel like it’s easy to relate to other people or do you find yourself confused and overwhelmed? Do you have any tips or insights for other readers? Let us know in the comments!

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